04 April, 2011

In Use

That's my Dad's quilt there. It rests on the cot and hospital pillows in my Dad's room. That room is in the Palliative unit at the hospital. He would sleep under it himself, as he did when he first entered the hospital, but the cancer makes him hot (and hungry). He makes us use the quilt as we take our turns spending the night with him. Comfort all around in the darkest of moments.

34 comments:

liz said...

Oh, how bittersweet. Best wishes to all of you as you travel this journey. My own dear dad spent a few weeks in a wonderful palliative care unit and it was such a blessing to spend time with him then. I hope you find the same. xo

felicity said...

I'm sorry, Cheryl, about your Dad. How lovely that your family can share his quilt for comfort.

Clara {Clover and Violet} said...

So sorry, thoughts and prayers for your dad and your family.

Sue said...

I'm so sorry Cheryl, take care and cuddle up under that precious quilt.

Suzanne said...

You have been on my mind as little things I've read on your blog have popped into my head while I am sewing. Peace be with you and your family, Cheryl.

Baskets Of Quilts said...

You and your family are in my thoughts prayers.

Amy said...

I hope the quilt gives you some comfort during this difficult time. I have no words to make it easier but know that you have people thinking of you.

Esch House Quilts said...

It must bring good feelings to your Dad to know that such a lovely quilt is helping to comfort his family as they comfort him. My thoughts are with you and yours.

Lisa said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you . . . I hope you find the comfort in each other that you need right now.

Jodi said...

My heart goes out to you and your dad and family - we lost our mom to cancer 1 1/2 yrs. ago. May you find peace and comfort in the days ahead.

Ray and Jeanne said...

I'm so sorry. It is so nice to have that quilt though - everyone who uses it or sees it can feel the family love. Take care.

Annie Crow said...

So very sorry. I wish you all strength and peace.

stitchinpenny said...

Cherish each of those horrible moments because they will be sought after memories way too soon. The fact that you use the quilt now after he used it for so long will become importatnt. Bless all of you. This is the toughest of times.

elle said...

Take comfort, Cheryl. Bless you!

Angie said...

I'm so sorry. I'm glad that you can all be together for him and each other.

pinkbrain said...

I'm so sorry. This is such a tough thing to have to go through. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Lee Ann said...

This brought tears to my eyes. It is never easy to watch a love one critically sick.

Dianne said...

Although it may sound odd I believe you are so lucky to have this gift of time to talk, share, love, reminisce and, hopefully, laugh with your dad. Precious moments to look back on in the future. To be able to say goodbye with nothing left unsaid is truly a gift. You and your family are in my thoughts and I pray that the light of love will see you through the coming days.

Anonymous said...

Have been following your lovely blog for a bit and this story is one that warms my heart! Two years ago I spent time with my mother in Palliative Care and we brought her quilt to the unit during her last days. It was stitched with pictures of our family, our father, brother and sisters. Your quilt tells a story that is beautiful and I know that your father can feel your closeness! Family will be what helps you get through this difficult time - God Bless!

anniem said...

My thoughts are with you and your family. That demon cancer took my mom a year and half ago (after 35 years cancer free) while I have beaten the bastard and am cancer-free 9 years. I shed a few tears as i type this.

jess said...

My prayers are with you... all of you. (((hugs)))

Corinnea said...

I hope you find comfort and joy during this time. I wish I'd had more warning before my dad was gone. Take as many moments as you can to build joyful memories.

Andrea said...

Oh Cheryl, my thoughts are with you...I hope you find comfort knowing that we are thinking of you. Take care of yourself, this is so difficult. :( Sending you lots of love....

Tanya said...

Cheryl, we love you! Please let me know if there is anything you need.

brown robin said...

Oh, Cheryl. My thoughts are with you and your family. I can only imagine. I totally get having the quilt there for comfort, if not for function. Last June, I brought one of my daughter's quilts that I had made her to my mom's hospital bed. I knew there was a fair chance that it could get thrown aside for medical need in the ICU or heart unit later, but I just didn't care. I needed her to have something of me there in that seriously sterile room. You are in my prayers.

Kat said...

I remember in these times as days drift by and melt into each other, oodles of memories of the best times return to make you smile and giggle as you did when you were a kid. Grab and hold onto the care and comfort of your family and friends to keep you sane. Hugs and peace to all.

HipHome said...

Thinking about you and your family often. Many prayers and hugs...

Corrie said...

oh I'm so sorry. I just lost my mum 2 weeks ago yesterday to cancer. I am missing her so much and the last few weeks of her life were tough. She was cared for at home by my dad until her last week. Palliative care people were wonderful but I'm tearing up for you now. Be strong, be with your family.
We took our turns with my mum and at the time I couldn't think about a future without her but I am so glad that she was surrounded by so much love. I miss her everyday, she was 61

take care, I will keep you all in my prayers from now on. such a cruel disease.

Corriexxxxxxx

My Sweet Prairie said...

Oh that is so sad. :((((

You are lucky to have a dad you love. I'm sorry for what you and he are going through. I'm glad you are together.

all the best.
~Monika in Saskatoon

Kate @SwimBikeQuilt said...

Life is hard, sometimes. Best wishes.

Jenny said...

So sorry to hear about your Dad, Cheryl.

Katherine said...

Thinking of you and your family, Cheryl.

Victoria said...

Cheryl, I actually woke up thinking of you this morning, wondering how you were and if you were still on a blog break, (as I have been very remiss with my blog reading). Then I saw the comment you left me, and happily came over here to see how things were. Oh my, I had no idea, and am sending you much love.

Just a bit over eight years ago I was right were you are now... with my father, in the hospital, as he struggled with cancer. It truly is a bitter sweet time, and my heart goes out to you and your father, as well as your whole family. Keep being there for him through this difficult journey that you are all on right now, as it is the greatest gift that you can give, as well as receive. xo Vic

CitricSugar said...

I have been mired in school the last eight months or I'd have commented earlier. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take care and if there's anything I can do, send up a flag.

Much love. C