tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post3869535450300043528..comments2024-03-28T12:52:28.406-06:00Comments on Dining Room Empire: Stand BackCheryl Arkisonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13552721454371060936noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-55999118782516994502010-11-25T22:11:55.787-07:002010-11-25T22:11:55.787-07:00I know of many parents who are spending hours and ...I know of many parents who are spending hours and hours doing for their children what my daughter is doing for herself.Thanks for the kind words and the plug. Much appreciated.insurance quoteshttp://www.insurancestop.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-46212956128378683602010-11-08T15:37:17.748-07:002010-11-08T15:37:17.748-07:00Love the post and love the costumes. You should s...Love the post and love the costumes. You should see what my daughter chooses to wear every day to school.... when she was 3 I had to fight with myself hard. Now she's 7, and I'm some kind of guru (albeit a crazed one.) Every morning, I just say, "wow... terrific color choices... you look spectacular."brown robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00240110591473818986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-61837231723303442702010-11-05T20:20:29.541-06:002010-11-05T20:20:29.541-06:00Good for you! I love what you said.
I raised two ...Good for you! I love what you said. <br />I raised two independent, strong willed, confident kids by letting them make a lot of their own decisonsSusana quiltsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-53337876696322802492010-11-04T11:14:24.605-06:002010-11-04T11:14:24.605-06:00My girls started telling me what they would and wo...My girls started telling me what they would and wouldn't wear at two years of age. I decided unless the outfit was completely weather inappropiate (no sundresses and sandals in January), I didn't care enough to make it an issue.<br /><br />Now my older daughter is a senior in high school and has been completely in charge of her college search and application process. Not that we haven't had any discussions about it, but she is the one in charge. I know of many parents who are spending hours and hours doing for their children what my daughter is doing for herself.Esch House Quiltshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07095448847070091632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-27129802930251901532010-11-02T14:05:31.077-06:002010-11-02T14:05:31.077-06:00Great post! And boy does that bring back memories ...Great post! And boy does that bring back memories of my own struggle when my kids were little... between my mind's eye for how things "should be" and my heart's desire to let them be free to express themselves. Learning which battles to pick was a day to day process and somedays I did much better then others. <br /><br />One of my favorite memories was letting my one daughter paint her face with face paints one morning a few hours before she had to go to preschool. She was so proud of what she had done, and wanted to keep the paint on to show her teacher, so I let her go to school that way. However, I'd completely for gotten that it was also portrait picture taking day! When the teacher asked if I'd like to go wash the paint off of my daughter's face, I decided to let her decide. She opted to keep the paint on for the photo shoot. Years later, I still adore that photo... she looks like a proud warrior!Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06913095438247860953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-20761130637452940662010-11-02T13:47:02.632-06:002010-11-02T13:47:02.632-06:00I have always let my kids go "Sharpie Crazy&q...I have always let my kids go "Sharpie Crazy" on their pumpkins. Then I challenge myself to find a face out of the scribbles. They love and I don't have a "Control Tantrum" about it. After all, it is their pumpkins, not mine!Stephanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00672184511310713481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-77180390479352168392010-11-02T13:39:27.484-06:002010-11-02T13:39:27.484-06:00As a college professor who gets kids who can't...As a college professor who gets kids who can't do anything by themselves with any certainty because of their parents constantly buzzing around them and making all of the decisions their whole lives, I thank you wholeheartedly.natalie.leppardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14906249342960844252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-27490318287299110212010-11-02T12:07:02.858-06:002010-11-02T12:07:02.858-06:00This took me back to when my oldest daughter was i...This took me back to when my oldest daughter was in preschool. I let her pick her clothes out and she dressed herself. One of her favorite outfits was black and white striped pants with a pink and white striped shirt. In her mind, they matched. The best part was her teachers were thrilled that she was capable. They told me to let her continue.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-27724625824367828832010-11-02T09:53:47.164-06:002010-11-02T09:53:47.164-06:00Amen. I am like you... develop strong children th...Amen. I am like you... develop strong children that know how to deal with life. No Helicopter parenting here, no cuddling and crying when they fall down. Get up and brush it off. What kid of play time would it be if your kids did not come back dirty, bruised or both. I love that old saying "whaterver doesn't kill you makes you stronger"polwighttp://polwig.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-87925513833378710322010-11-02T09:20:49.648-06:002010-11-02T09:20:49.648-06:00Thank you. Sometimes I think parents get so wrappe...Thank you. Sometimes I think parents get so wrapped up in wanting what's best for their children that they forget to just let them BE children. It's the doing and making mistakes (or not) that helps us all learn. I know I forget sometimes :-) Perhaps today I'll follow your example and just sit on my hands and stay out of their way!Meganhttp://megsmonkeybeans.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-88261508998786812112010-11-02T09:00:43.306-06:002010-11-02T09:00:43.306-06:00I really, really appreciate you sharing this... an...I really, really appreciate you sharing this... and the internal thoughts that went along with your weekend. I'm not a helicopter parent but I do have a strong internal dialogue that wants to make everything perfect and it stresses me out. But really, I bet I could let a lot of it go... <br /><br />Thanks for sharing; it's made my day!<br /><br />Jennifer :)Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16866875122831811474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-54564232328628732682010-11-02T08:25:58.683-06:002010-11-02T08:25:58.683-06:00It is all about choosing your battles. Too much o...It is all about choosing your battles. Too much of parenting is about me(the parent) and my fears. good post!ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15188791638739872773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-59790025679665921142010-11-02T08:00:49.674-06:002010-11-02T08:00:49.674-06:00I really appreciate this post. Since I don't ...I really appreciate this post. Since I don't yet have my own kids I am learning through nannying the kind of parent I want to be. <br />I love that you took the time to think through whether it really mattered that the pumpkins were coloured or whether it was such a big deal if your kids put their own "touch" on their costumes.<br />If you've never read From the Heart, Rebecca is a mother of 3 cute kids near Vancouver, and a while back she wrote a post about saying "no" that I loved as well. Check it out! rebeccafromtheheart.blogspot.comJessyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05042829649452669882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-52600948803212110032010-11-02T07:25:08.739-06:002010-11-02T07:25:08.739-06:00I struggle with this because my child doesn't ...I struggle with this because my child doesn't like to do things alone. Especially on the playground. We left in tears yesterday because I wouldn't go down the slide with my two year old who can do it herself! I think the other parents think I'm helicoptering her. I definitely encourage her tomake decisions. Maybe that's it, if I act like it doesn't matter she'll do it? Love the costumes.Becky (My Fabric Obsession)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09264800140397196483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7593114644785141187.post-65062053057136203142010-11-02T06:57:19.988-06:002010-11-02T06:57:19.988-06:00You are singing my song! I have to ask myself a l...You are singing my song! I have to ask myself a lot, "How important is it?" especially when I am faced with the fact that what they are doing is not what I wanted or expected. However, if it's not hurting anyone or damaging anything, what does it matter if it's not done my way? My kids are my best teachers and they push me to be a better parent and person on a daily basis.<br /><br />On a separate note, I FINALLY finished my self portrait block. The whole time I thought about your Fear post. Thank you for encouraging me, someone you don't know at all, to just shut up and do it.Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02568944733073812787noreply@blogger.com